Last week I received one of the most stunning phone calls I have had in a long time. My very dear friend lost her husband, in an instant. It was sudden....He was only 38 years old! They have two little boys and my heart just breaks for them. There are some trials and challenges in life that nothing will prepare you for. This is definitely one of them.
This is not my story to tell, it is hers, and I hope that she will continue to pass on her loving memories. I encouraged her to set up a blog so that she could write her thoughts and memories, and so that others could share their memories of her wonderful husband. I hope that it will also be a place for her boys to read stories of their dad that they might not have heard otherwise.
I am sharing this with you on my blog to remind myself in the future how precious life really is...it truly can change in an instant. I cherish my children and my husbands love, but some days I get wrapped up in the ridiculous little things that irritate me and forget how quickly it could all change. My girlfriend and her husband were away celebrating their 10 year wedding anniversary, so she will have wonderful memories of their last moments together. I shared with her how lucky I felt she was to have had that time just before his passing. I know "lucky" doesn't seem like the right word, but it could have been one of those ugly mornings where someone forgot to take out the trash (this would be my house) or some other trivial situation.
They have beautiful pictures of one another from the week spent together. So nice... Their boys will be able to look at these pictures and see the love that their mom and dad had for one another. Their dad was a good man who cherished - adored - their mom. I am sure that they will remember that every time they see those pictures.
I doubt that I am going to stop being annoyed by the bowl of sunflower seed shells that are left behind every night, or the socks that never seem to make it from the side of the bed to the laundry basket. But, I am sure that the morning I wake up and they aren't there, I will miss them terribly.
This was also a BIG wake up call to get my plans in order. I don't want my children to have to make decisions that they shouldn't. I also hope and pray that someone would step up for my husband and help with all the little things...there are so many little things that go into the final moments of someones life. Gathering pictures, picking out their clothes, what music they want, what prayers/poems/blessings they would want. These are things that a grieving spouse or loved one really needs support with.
Go LOVE on someone you LOVE.
If you would like to hear more about this great man and his loving family, you can check them out here.